It’s like he’s a completely different kid: more tantrums, yelling, and attitudes he doesn’t show at home. It frustrates me so much because I feel like I can’t handle the situation, and I end up exhausted and sometimes even crying. Is it normal for kids to act differently depending on who they’re with? Is this just happening to me, or has anyone else experienced it? I’d really appreciate some advice because, honestly, I don’t know what to do anymore.
Oh I can totally understand where you’re coming from! My LO (little one) is 4 now, but at 3, he did exactly this whenever we visited my mom’s house I think it’s a mix of the environment change and maybe just knowing they can push limits differently with different people around. It drove me nuts too, but honestly, it’s more common than you’d think. You’re not alone in this!
Ugh, this sounds so tough. I don’t have advice, but I just want to say that it’s 100% okay to feel overwhelmed by this. Kids can be so unpredictable, and situations like this make it harder. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s what matters.
Yes, kids often act differently around other people or in new settings. It’s like they’re testing boundaries or reacting to the energy in the room. My 3yo used to have the worst meltdowns at my in-laws’ house. I started keeping visits shorter, bringing his favorite toys, and sticking to his routine as much as possible. It helped a bit, but what really worked was talking to my in-laws about what triggers him. Maybe try figuring out if there’s something specific that sets him off? Too much noise, overstimulation, or changes in the rules?
Yep, my kid does the same thing! It’s so frustrating. 
I have two teens now, but when they were little, they’d act up around extended family, too. A lot of it is overstimulation, too many people, new expectations, etc. I’d recommend bringing something familiar, like a favorite blanket or toy, to help ground your child. Also, don’t be afraid to set boundaries with family if their behavior is contributing (like lots of loud voices or giving in to your kid’s tantrums). You’ve got this!
My daughter was the same way at that age. What worked for us was prepping her ahead of time. Before visiting family, I’d explain what the day would look like and what behavior was expected. I’d also let her know that if she got upset, we’d take a break together. It didn’t fix things overnight, but it helped her feel more secure. At 5, she’s much calmer now and doesn’t need as much guidance. Hang in there! They really do grow out of it with time and consistency.
Thank you! I hadn’t thought about overstimulation. I think I’ll try packing his comfort items next time. For those of you who’ve been through this, how did you handle it when family members commented on your parenting during these moments? That’s another thing that really gets to me.
Honestly, I think family dynamics play a big role. My 3yo acts out more with certain relatives, and I’ve noticed it’s usually when they’re either too lenient or too overbearing. It might help to talk to your husband about setting consistent boundaries with his family. And hey, give yourself some grace, you’re not failing, you’re learning! 
Oh man, the family comments are so hard. My son used to throw full-on tantrums at my MIL’s house, and she’d always say things like, “He doesn’t do this with me because I’m stricter.” It hurt, but I had to remind myself that I know my kid best. I started stepping outside with him when things got bad, it gave him a chance to reset and showed family I wasn’t ignoring the issue. Over time, he got more comfortable, and the comments stopped as they saw him improving. Don’t let anyone make you feel like a bad mom. You’re doing the hardest job there is!
Thanks, everyone. It’s helpful to hear that I’m not alone. I wonder if it’s because there are so many people around, or maybe they’re stricter with him than I am? Do your kids ever act like they’re trying to impress or push boundaries with others?