Since my family came to visit My 4yo son has been acting completely different since my family came to stay with us.He used to be so sweet, and now he’s rebelling nonstop. He’s yelling at me, throwing himself on the floor for the tiniest things, and ignoring me when I ask him to do anything. The tantrums have become daily, and I feel like I’ve completely lost control. I think having all the extra people and noise has been overwhelming for him, but I don’t know how to help him (or myself!) get through this. I’m desperate 
Any advice?
Omg, same here with my 3yo when we had visitors for two weeks. I thought I was losing my mind.
I totally get what you’re saying. My son went through something similar after my in-laws stayed with us for a month. It’s like his whole routine got thrown out the window, and he didn’t know how to handle it. The tantrums were constant, and I felt like nothing I said or did mattered to him anymore. Honestly, I don’t have a solution, but I want you to know you’re not alone. Sometimes just knowing other parents are in the same boat helps a little, right?
This is so common, especially after a big change like having family stay over! At that age, kids thrive on routine and predictability, and when things get shaken up, they don’t always know how to express their feelings. It could be that he’s feeling overstimulated or even jealous if your attention has been split between him and your family.
What helped us when this happened was getting back to a consistent routine as soon as possible, same wake, up time, meals, playtime, and bedtime every day. I also made sure to spend some one-on-one time with my child doing something he loves, even if it was just 10 minutes of uninterrupted play. It showed him that he still had my attention and love.
Hang in there, kids are resilient, and this phase will pass. You’ve got this, mama!
Wow, your post is hitting so close to home for me. My 5yo did the exact same thing last summer when my sister and her kids stayed with us. I thought it’d be fun for her, but instead, she became super clingy with me and had meltdowns over the smallest stuff.
Do you think it could be that he’s feeling left out or unsure of his place with all the extra people around? I remember thinking my daughter was acting out because she didn’t know how to handle the sudden shift in attention. Maybe it’s the same for your son?
As a mom of teens now, I can tell you this phase won’t last forever. I remember when my son was 4, and my brother came to stay for a few weeks. My son’s behavior took a nosedive, and I was beside myself. What worked for us was giving him a safe space to express his emotions. We talked a lot about feelings, even though it felt silly sometimes. I also had to set firmer boundaries with family about not letting them step in when I was disciplining him, it helped to keep things consistent.
Looking back, I realize these moments taught him how to adapt and manage big changes. It’s tough now, but you’re laying the foundation for him to handle challenges later in life. You’ve got this!
Thank you all so much for your replies. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I think you’re all right about the routine, I’ve been there, trust me. My youngest is 14 now, but when he was 8, we had a terrible time with sleep after vacations or breaks. One thing I learned is that consistency really is key, even when it feels impossible. We also started having a “wind-down hour” before bed with no screens and quiet activities like puzzles or reading. It wasn’t perfect, but over time it made a huge difference. And remember, this phase won’t last forever. It feels all, consuming now, but you’ll get through it. You’re a great mom, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. I’ve let that slide with everything going on, so I’m going to work on getting us back on track. I’m also going to try carving out some one-on-one time with him and see if that helps. Fingers crossed 
Big changes like this are hard, but you’ll both get through it. Kids are so much more adaptable than we give them credit for. I went through something similar with my 4yo after a big move, and it was rough for a while, but once we got back to a predictable routine, things settled down. You’re doing great just by recognizing that this is a phase and reaching out for help. Hang in there, it’ll get better!