Lately, I’ve noticed my 5 year old having a really hard time with organization and frustration. He constantly forgets where he puts things, gets super upset when something doesn’t go right, and struggles to follow through with simple tasks. It breaks my heart because I can see how much it affects his confidence.
This weekend, I really want to help him work on this. I’m planning to play memory games, introduce some simple time management ideas, and practice problem, solving steps with him. I also want to teach him how to take a deep breath when he gets frustrated and how to ask for help in a calm way. I know this won’t change overnight, but I just want to help him feel more in control and capable.
Has anyone else been through this with their little one? Any tips or things that have worked for you?
Oh wow, this is literally my kid too. I feel like I’m constantly repeating myself: Where did you last see it? Take a deep breath. Let’s try again. And some days, it just feels like nothing sticks! I totally get the concern because I worry about it too, like, is this just typical 5 year old stuff, or should I be doing more? I don’t have answers, but I’m in the same boat, so if you figure out any magical tricks, let me know!
You’re already on the right track with memory games and problem-solving strategies! One thing that really helped my kid at this age was using visuals, like a little checklist with pictures for daily tasks put shoes away, wash hands, etc. Also, breaking tasks into tiny steps made a huge difference. Instead of “clean up your toys,” I’d say, Let’s start by putting all the cars in this bin.
For frustration, we did a calm corner with a stuffed animal, a glitter jar, and some picture books about feelings. It didn’t work instantly, but over time, he started using it on his own when he got overwhelmed. Hang in there! This stuff takes time, but small wins add up
I hear you on this. It’s so hard watching them struggle and not being able to just fix it for them. My little guy gets so worked up over the smallest things, and I swear I spend half my day talking him down. No advice here, just solidarity. You’re not alone in this!
It sounds like you’re doing an amazing job already! Kids at this age are still developing these skills, and even though it feels frustrating now, the fact that you’re guiding him through it will make a huge difference long term. My older kid was just like this, and I remember thinking he’d never be able to get through a simple routine without a meltdown. But now, at 7, he’s so much more independent, and I can see how all those little lessons we worked on actually stuck.
It’s slow progress, but it’s happening! Keep doing what you’re doing, and trust that he will get there. 