Hey everyone, I need some advice. My 8 year old son has been struggling to make friends lately, and I’m not sure how to help him. He’s a sweet kid but tends to get a bit shy around other children and I’ve noticed he feels left out at times. It breaks my heart because I know how important friendships are, especially at this age. I try to encourage him to join activities at school, but he says no one really plays with him. Any tips on how I can support him without making him feel pressured? Would love to hear what’s worked for others!
Hey Lisa! This can be really tough but you’re not alone. One thing that’s worked for my kid is organizing small playdates with just one child at a time it’s way less intimidating. Beforehand, we practice what it means to be a good host, like sharing toys and noticing if the other kid is having fun. Social scripts are also greatm basically, short conversations you practice with your child.
You could also look into clubs or activities where there’s a shared interest. Kids sometimes connect easier when they’re doing something structured together like art or sports. And remember, it’s okay if he only makes one or two close friends…quality over quantity! Stay patient; friendships take time, but with a bit of guidance, he’ll get there.
I totally get where you’re coming from. My middle one went through the same thing. It’s so hard watching them try to make connections and feel like they’re not getting anywhere. I don’t have a magic answer, but just know you’re not alone. You’re doing a great job by being aware and supportive. Sometimes it feels like half the battle is just showing up for them