With family visiting for the holidays, I know it’s going to be chaos with all the cousins running around. I don’t want to be the “mean mom,” but I also feel like it’s important to set some boundaries for my son. How do I balance letting him have fun while still making sure there’s respect for rules and routines? It’s so hard not to feel like I’m overreacting or worrying too much. Does anyone else struggle with this?
Ugh, same. It’s like you want them to have these great memories, but then you’re the one stressing about sugar highs, meltdowns, and bedtime wars while everyone else laughs it off. I just try to remind myself it’s okay if it’s not perfect, but it’s so tough not to overthink every little thing!
I totally get where you’re coming from! I had my family over last summer, and it was like my house turned into a circus. The kids were having a blast, but I felt like I was the only one paying attention to things like running inside with muddy shoes or yelling during the baby’s nap. What worked for me was picking just one or two rules to stick to, like keeping the noise down in certain areas, and letting the rest slide. I still felt a little guilty, but honestly, everyone had fun, and the house survived. You’re not alone in this!
Omg, yes, why is this so hard?? I always feel like if I let too much slide, then they’ll forget the rules completely, but if I push too hard, I’m the bad guy. Does your family back you up with boundaries? Mine always says stuff like, “It’s the holidays, let them have fun!” Drives me nuts! What rules do you feel like you have to enforce?
You’ve got this! Honestly, it sounds like you’re already putting so much thought into finding that balance, which means you’re doing a great job. These moments can feel overwhelming, but in the big picture, your son is going to remember that you cared enough to try. 
Hey, Jessica, I’ve been there for sure! What I’ve found helpful is setting up a quick “family meeting” with the kids before the chaos starts. I’ll just say something like, “I want everyone to have fun, but here’s what’s really important to me: respect the house and listen when grown-ups ask for something.” Then I remind them of consequences if it gets too crazy (e.g., a break from playing if they’re not following the rules). It’s amazing how even a little heads-up can set the tone. Also, make sure to pick your battles—some things can wait till after the holidays. Hope this helps!
Lol, my kid turned our last holiday gathering into a WWE match with their cousin over who got to sit next to Grandma. I was mortified, but my mom just laughed and said, “This is what holidays are for!” Now I try to focus on keeping everyone safe and somewhat sane, everything else is just a good story for later. 