I’m so heartbroken and worried about my 13yearold son. Lately, he keeps saying things like he’s not good at anything or that he messes everything up. We are loving parents, and we’ve always tried to build him up but it’s like no matter what we say, he doesn’t believe us. I hate seeing him so down, and I’m really scared this will affect him long term. Has anyone else gone through this? What can I do to help him see his worth?
This is so tough. It sounds like you’re doing everything right, but self-esteem is a tricky thing at this age. I think the hardest part is that it doesn’t always come from the outside it has to be something they feel for themselves. But it’s hard to see our kids hurting like this. Have you asked him if anything specific is bothering him? Maybe a friend issue or pressure at school? Sometimes it’s just a phase but if it feels more serious don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or counselor.
I totally understand why you’re concerned. Self-esteem is so important at this stage especially because it shapes how kids see themselves and interact with the world. When kids feel good about who they are they have the confidence to try new things, make friends and bounce back from mistakes. On the flip side, kids with low self-esteem might avoid challenges and struggle with friendships because they fear rejection. It might help to focus on small wins, things he’s already good at or enjoys doing. Encouraging activities like sports, music, or art can be great because they help kids build confidence step by step. Just being there and listening when he feels down is already a huge support. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now your love and attention are laying the foundation for his self worth.