I was surprised because at home we’ve been firm: no screen time during the week. I asked him for it, and he said, Grandma lent it to me. I know he meant no harm, but I don’t want him to break the habit. I explained that even though grandparents are more flexible, we follow our rules at home. He got angry, but I know with perseverance he’ll understand. Now it’s time for me to talk to my parents so they respect the limits we set
That’s tough! I’ve been in similar situations too 
. It’s hard to stick to your rules when others don’t understand them
My mom is super lenient about screen time with my kids, and it’s such a struggle to keep things consistent. I totally get why you feel the need to talk to your parents, they need to respect the boundaries we set, especially when it comes to habits like screen time. It’s not easy, but staying firm and explaining why you set the limits should help in the long run. We’ve had some success by offering a grandma, approved special activity instead of screens when they’re visiting. Maybe that could help? 
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My parents were super lenient with my firstborn, especially with screen time, and I had to lay down the law about it. The thing is, grandparents often want to spoil the kids, and that can create confusion for your child when they go back home. It’s easy for them to get upset when you change the rules on them. What worked for me was first sitting down with my parents and explaining the long-term benefits of screen time limits, better sleep, better focus, all of that. Once they understood it wasn’t just about being strict but about setting healthy habits, they were more on board. I also had to set boundaries about when and where screens were allowed during visits. It took a couple of conversations, but we got there! Kids do get it, but it helps when both parents and grandparents are on the same page. Patience is key, and consistency is your friend. You’ve got this!
It’s so hard when your child is with someone who bends the rules, especially when you’ve been consistent. We went through this phase with our son when he started staying with my in-laws. At first, it felt like a battle because we didn’t want to go against the rules we set at home, but my husband and I sat down with his parents to talk about the importance of keeping routines the same, even when they’re not around. We made a deal that they could do fun things like outdoor activities or even cooking together, things that didn’t involve screens. It really helped in the long run, and I feel like it strengthened our communication as a family. Now, when we visit, I can trust that they respect our boundaries. It’s tough, but it’s worth the effort! 
It’s definitely hard when the rules get bent by others, especially grandparents. I’ve had similar issues, and we’ve had a few conversations with both my parents and my in, laws about our screen time rules. What helped was giving them a heads, up ahead of time about our no-screen rule during the week, and being clear about how it affects our child’s behavior and sleep patterns. It’s so easy for them to slip into their old ways of spoiling the kids. I also find that when I give them alternatives, like activities they can do with him that don’t involve screens, they’re more on board. Stick to your guns and have that conversation with them, it’ll help your child in the long run!
I feel your frustration! It’s so hard to navigate these things with family. I think kids sometimes think rules at home can be bent because of grandparents’ love and flexibility. But consistency is key! I had a similar situation with my son, and I explained that rules are there for his good, even if others don’t follow them. I made it a habit to talk to his grandparents regularly to keep them in the loop, but I also have to stay firm on my side. It takes time, but they do get it! And your kid will learn too. Hang in there!
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That’s a tough one! I’ve been in the same situation. My daughter was getting her screen time from her grandparents, and it definitely caused confusion when she got home. What worked for us was setting some clear expectations: I told them that if they were to offer screen time, it had to be limited to certain times of the day and only if they followed the rules we had at home. The key was being firm but also understanding. I find that communicating the why behind the rules is often the most effective approach. Once they saw the reasoning behind it, like how screen time can affect sleep patterns or behavior, it became much easier for them to respect the boundaries. And, in the end, it’s all about consistency. Stick to your rules, and your child will catch on!