Raising one child is already a huge challenge, with everything it implies: time, patience, money… I don’t know if I could handle it all with two. But at the same time, I’m worried that he’s growing up feeling lonely. It’s a dilemma that keeps me up at night. Is it selfish not to give him a brother? Or is it worse to take the risk and not be able to handle the responsibility?
My 5 year old has been asking for a sibling too, and honestly, I don’t know how to feel about it. I’ve been nervous about whether I could balance two kids. Can I ask, what’s holding you back the most? The finances, or just the idea of starting all over again with a baby?
Oh wow, I feel for you. That’s such a tough spot to be in 
I get it, it feels overwhelming, but remember that siblings aren’t the only way to create bonds for your child. Playdates, cousins, or even extracurricular activities can give your son the connection he’s craving. You’re already an amazing mom for thinking about his feelings. Whatever you decide, he’s lucky to have you in his corner!
I have one kid too, and I’ve had those same sleepless nights. My little one also asked for a sibling a while back, but I couldn’t take the plunge. Instead, we started doing weekly playdates and joined a local parent group. It helped a lot. Now, my kid’s busy with friends and doesn’t bring it up much. Have you looked into ways to add more social time for him?
Thank you all so much for your replies. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one struggling with this. I love the ideas about playdates and activities—I think I’ll try those first and see how it goes. And honestly, hearing both sides helps me realize there’s no “right” answer. I’ll just take it one step at a time. 
Honestly, this is such a hard question, and I don’t think there’s a perfect answer. Sometimes I feel the same guilt for not having another. It’s like, no matter what we do, we wonder if it’s enough for them, you know? Parenting is hard enough without all these big decisions weighing us down
I’ve been where you are! My oldest was an only child until he was 7. He also used to tell me he felt lonely, and it broke my heart. Eventually, we did have another, and while it brought joy, it also brought chaos. I’m not going to lie, it’s a LOT. The good news is that my oldest and his sibling are now really close. That said, I know plenty of only children who grew up to be happy and well, adjusted adults. I think it’s more about giving them love and support, whether or not they have siblings. Whatever decision you make, trust yourself
You’re asking all the right questions, and that shows how much you care. One thing I’ve learned is that being intentional with your time matters more than the number of kids. Studies show that only children often develop strong social skills when their parents provide opportunities for connection, like regular playdates or team activities. So, if the idea of another child feels too overwhelming, maybe focus on expanding his world in other ways. Parenting isn’t about perfection, it’s about doing your best with what you have!
Haha, I can’t lie, having more than one is no joke. My two are 3 and 5, and there are days when they drive me absolutely bonkers with their sibling squabbles. But then, there are those sweet moments when they’re playing together or standing up for each other, and it melts my heart. If you do decide to have another, just know that the tough days are real, but the good ones make it all worth it. And hey, if you don’t, there’s nothing wrong with keeping it simple. Less laundry, am I right?