Hi everyone! My oldest son is starting to feel jealous since we welcomed his little brother a month ago, and I’m really struggling with how to handle it. I want to make sure he doesn’t feel left out or think that I care more for his baby brother. I’m looking for any tips or strategies you might have to make him feel special and included. How did you manage sibling jealousy? Any advice or formulas that worked for you? Thanks in advance! 
One thing that worked for us was setting aside special time just for the older sibling. We called it “Mommy and Me Time” and did something fun together while the baby napped. Also, getting the older child involved in baby care, like choosing clothes or helping with bath time, can make them feel important and included. It’s not a perfect fix, but it helps a lot! 
This is veryyyy common. My older child went through the same thing when my second baby was born. We started a “Big Brother Club” where he got a little badge and special privileges like choosing the bedtime story or picking a weekend activity. Also, whenever the baby had to be fed or changed, we made it a point to explain how much we needed his help and how important he was. It helped him feel valued and less jealous.
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Thanks for the great suggestions!, I love the idea of “Mommy and Me Time” and will definitely try that. the “Big Brother Club” sounds fantastic. I think making him feel like he has a special role will really help. I’m also thinking of letting him pick out a few baby items or help with choosing toys for the baby. Fingers crossed this helps with the jealousy!
one thing we did was create a -special box for the older sibling filled with things they really like books, snacks, small toys. whenever they felt upset or needed extra attention, they could have a -special box moment. its not a magic fix but it helped to give them something to look forward to and feel valued.
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