This has been the most exhausting three months of my life 
. I thought we were making progress but it feels like every time we take a step forward, we take about 50 steps back. My 4 year old will do great for a few days and then suddenly it’s like we’re starting from scratch again. Accidents all over the place, tantrums about using the potty, and now my 2-year-old is getting curious, which is a whole other mess 
. I seriously feel like I’m doing something wrong here… Is this normal? Does it get better? I just need to know I’m not alone in this.
Hey Nicole! First off, you’re not alone…this is so normal. My first took about six months before it finally clicked, and even then, accidents still happened. A couple of things that worked for us:
We made a sticker chart where every successful potty trip earned a sticker, and after ten stickers, there was a reward (nothing big, just a fun outing or a new coloring book).
I also started letting him pick out his underwear with characters he loved…it made him more excited to stay “dry for Spider-Man.”
Try not to stress too much about the regressions, they happen when they’re adjusting to a big change. With two kiddos, there’s also sibling dynamics at play. Maybe your little one sees the potty as a fun new thing to explore, which is… chaotic but also pretty normal.
You’re doing great !!Potty training is hard, but it’s just a phase, I promise. You’ve got this
Oh, Nicole, I feel this in my bones 
. My daughter had me in tears during potty training, and just when I thought we were done, she regressed hard. It felt like I had signed up for some cruel joke the universe plays on parents. Honestly, it took almost a year before things felt consistent. What really helped me was ditching the pressure, on both of us. I decided that accidents were okay and that I didn’t have to have it all figured out right away. Kids learn in their own weird, messy timelines, and sometimes all we can do is survive the ride.