I’m trying to use the time to do pending things, but I keep looking at his room, hoping to hear his laugh, his little voice calling me. I know it’s good for him, that he’ll play, learn, make friends, but I can’t help missing him. I miss his energy, his messiness, even his little pranks. I still can’t get used to this silence
Wow! I felt this so much when my daughter started daycare. The house felt so quiet, like something wasn’t right. I remember folding laundry and missing how she would help me, like throw everything on the floor. It gets easier, I swear. But it’s a really weird adjustment, isn’t it? We spend every second with them, and suddenly they’re making friends and doing crafts without us What helped me was creating little routines just for me during that time like a coffee ritual or a walk, so I had something to ground me when the house felt too empty. Do you already have something like that?
I understand. The silence is the hardest. I went from always having a little shadow following me around to feeling like I lived in a different house. I don’t think I even realized how much I was talking to my son until I was standing in the kitchen, not talking to anyone 
. And, logically, we know it’s good for them, but still, somehow, it feels wrong? Like we’re missing out on all their little moments? It’s hard. Not advice, just so you know I totally get it
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This hit me hard. My son just started preschool, and I swear, I didn’t expect to feel so lost without him. I thought I’d be relieved to have a break, maybe even excited to have time for myself, but no. I keep checking my phone, waiting for an update, wondering if he’s happy, if he misses me too. And then I feel guilty because I want him to be happy and independent, but I also want him to need me. Being a parent is so emotionally confusing, haha. How are you handling the deliveries? Are you holding up, or is it an emotional roller coaster?
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I remember that feeling! What helped me was keeping busy, really busy I started making a list the night before of the things I had to do so I wouldn’t have time to think about it twice And I made sure at least one of those things was something fun just for me, even if it was just sitting with a latte and leisurely scrolling on my phone, haha Also, getting excited about pick, up time helped I started a little routine: I would bring a small snack, a sticker, or something, and my son would be so happy to see me and show me what he had done that day It made the transition so much easier
This is so normal, but it gets easier! One thing that helped me was finding a way to stay connected with my son while he was at daycare. Some centers send pictures or updates; If yours does check them when you’re feeling down If not you can do something like give him a little heart drawn on his hand in the morning and tell him it’s a secret hug he can look at when he misses you Also make the most of pick, up time! Ask him how his day was praise his small accomplishments and you’ll start to feel the joy of watching him grow in a whole new way 